Look around you today! Are there some people that attract you? Do you look for a way to do something nice for them?
They would be pleased to see your gesture and would probably want to do something nice for you! By now you have found that it’s good to learn to give to others. Have you learned that it’s also good to learn to receive from others? There are equal benefits to both.
How do you balance your good energy? You have your education, your career, your family, your ambition, and fame, and hopefully, you have remembered to love and seek to be loved. Love may be your greatest success in life! It’s how you take care of yourself and how you have joy and happiness when times get tough.
Building healthy relationships takes staying in touch with others, being understanding and forgiving, and being honest about what you are doing and thinking. Friends can handle the truth and will not abandon you if you get sidetracked in life.
The people you are meeting right now could end up being some of your best friends, so show an interest in their lives! Be pro-active in making plans to find fun, affordable things to do, but DO IT! This is what it takes to build relationships. Do good things for one another.
Find time to be with people and learn how they interact. What is your list of interests and things you may want to do with someone else? Travel, attend concerts, play golf, swim or bowl, go hiking, tour museums or landmarks, play cards, dance, or play music? You can meet others with similar interests by joining groups.
Pick a country you might want to visit someday. Write to someone in that “foreign country” and develop a friendship. What is that you like best about that country? Do they want to know about your “foreign country”? Writing to someone is therapeutic, so reach out to someone in your past and become pen pals. Or maybe someone off of Facebook, or a cousin your age in a different part of the country.
You may become closer friends now that you both are older and have the resources to get together once a year or so. Using a friend to talk through a problem is not uncommon. Our thoughts can magnify things so when we describe the problem or manifest our thoughts in words to someone we trust, often we find that we’re able to neutralize the problem and even solve it. You’ll find that friends have also experienced similar situations!
However, in any conversation remember to stick to the facts and first-party stories. Speak frankly about your thoughts and how you and others might be feeling about any given situation. Speak in a kind but think about what they might say and how they perceive the situation so that you can better come up with a compromise or a plan to resolve any issue or problem so that everyone results in a win-win situation!
When you get old and your family is gone, the world looks a lot different than it does now. You gain value when you have “childhood” friends and cousins because they know what you’ve been through and how you have managed to make your dreams, hopes & passions work. And you get to see what they do for their life choices and how that’s’ worked for them.
You’ve seen stories about your class reunion in 10, 20, 25 years, and how much you have in common with those classmates. It’s fun to share your lives, your hearts, and your passions. It’ll make you more creative and you’ll appreciate yourself more.
Start a new tradition and sit down once a year and call all the old people in your life and say Hi. See how they’re doing. Call other family members and also call your old family and friends and check it with them. If you do it regularly like every New Year’s Day or another holiday, they’ll start to look forward to hearing from you and want to know how you are dealing with life and its changes!
Leave hard times in the past and focus on present times in each other’s lives. Show them and your family members that you are a good example of How to Build Relationships!
